Haters Gonna Hate
Do you ever feel defeated by the people around you? Do you feel as if no one gets you? That the world has been designed around pissing you off, and stopping you from where you want to go? Well it hasn’t, your just mistaken. I’ve had a few conversations lately with some friends that have made me a little sad. Most likely whenever I’m having a talk with a friend and were just chit chatting about what we wish we could do, or where we wish we could go it always seems to be followed with heaps of doubt. “I’m not smart enough, talented enough, popular enough, strong enough, motivated enough, brave enough, and so on and so forth and it just seems we never think we are worth enough to deserve what will really make us happy. I realize a huge part of my last post was learning a new perspective for a happier life but it something I truly believe in. Our world is too big and diverse for all your dreams to come true the way you’ve always hoped they would. Not everyone is going to think your ideas are brilliant. Your parents will most likely question your every move, your peers will wonder why you make the choices you do and your haters will most likely wonder why it is you even exists. You know what though? Fuck em’.
Like I have said before, no one has to live inside your mind but you. You are not walking on this earth to please others. Of course, be considerate of the other lives around you but do not base your life around those who could care less if you prosper or not. If you want to be a singer, actress, fitness guru, lawyer, parent, Olympic gold mentalist, or even a janitor if it’s what you believe will put you in a state of mind that makes your life brighter, do what you need to do to get there. Your loved ones who try to stop you are just afraid of the unknown. Your haters (I know the word haters is soo 2008 but like is there even a better word for them? No.) who try to tare down your name are just afraid that you will succeed. Tune it out man. Never stop trying for a life you truly desire. Think about it even if you do try the worst that could happen is that your dreams didn’t come true. However, if you don’t try at all then they didn’t even have a chance of coming true.
Accept the fact that people are always going to suck. Adapt, move on, create a life catered to you. Live the reality you choose and not one that the world thinks is “acceptable”. Accept the backlash, and let it fuel you. I was watching a documentary a few months back, it was about Keith Richards from the rolling stones. He said something that really stuck with me, I feel as if it’s something important to remember “There is no way in the world if anything is meaningful and truthful that you’re not going to offend someone. You got to be able to say what it is, say how it is, and take the consequences”. Hell, yah Keith. Preach! How boring would this world be if everyone agreed with everyone? In my opinion if you’re not mentally or physically hurting yourself or hurting other people then rock on with yah bad self! People will be offended, people will disagree, and there’s nothing you can do about that. Let them be as mad as they want let them fill themselves with negativity because they disagree. Let them burden themselves with that hate. There is no time on the way to the top to dwell on the people who have nothing better to do then create negativity, let them live with that shit.
I get this whole growing up thing is hard, “adulating” if you will. Finding what you want to do, where you want to live all that great stuff that comes with bundles of doubt about if you’re doing the right thing, or if you’re in the right job, you might have thoughts like “is this what my parents wanted me to do?” “will my friends think it’s weird if I do this?” “I don’t want to upset anyone so I won’t say that” all those thoughts will do is stop you from doing what it is that thrills you. When you think of your wants do they excite you? Is it something you have always aspired for? Is it something you catch yourself day dreaming about? Then screw it love! Take the first step and dive right in.
I’ve always wanted to do something writing related, when I was younger I would write “books” pages and pages of stories that I just wanted to put down on paper. I would wright songs and poetry, and even to this day I still have hundreds of notes in my phone of little things I just wanted to write down. It makes me feel better, especially entering into early adulthood. The thing is though I would always doubt myself. I would think “who wants to read anything from me? What I have done that would mean anything to anyone?” or I would think “I can’t pursue this my parents wants me to get a job and join the real world soon”. I would question what my friends would think or even people that have nothing to do with my life. Then I woke up one day and I realized I was miserable. I had just graduated from college, I was living back at home doing the same thing every god damn day working a job I completely hated. Something needed to change it wasn’t going to happen with me just feeling sorry for myself thinking, well maybe something I love will just fall into my lap one day. So, I took action I began thinking of the things I could do to get to where I wanted to go that was doable for me at that time. One thing I knew is that I needed to move out. My family is my whole world but they are also my crutch, I depend on them for everything instead of holding myself accountable. I was living with the mind set “oh I don’t have to do that because my parents will just take care of it later”. So I moved to Maine, I started meditating more, I was consistently writing, I signed up for signing lessons, and I’ve become a lot more content with where I am at the moment.
None of this was easy for me I didn’t just get up and go. I kept it a secret from most everyone that I signed a lease, finally telling my family was terrifying. Then the job I thought I got as a nanny turned out to be a money laundering scam (that is a blog from another day though), and I hand to come home every other week to work for my parents so I could make rent. Nothing in this life is going to come to you without a few road blocks. Moving away though and having a lot of free time made me start thinking more, which made me start writing more, which made me a hell of a lot more happier. So, I decided to share with anyone that wanted to listen, ever sense I started this I have had people a barley talk to come up to me and tell me how much they enjoy my posts, they thank me for being so honest and that they find reassurance in the fact that their not the only ones with haunting thoughts. That shit makes me so happy, to think I’ve helped someone with my writing? Are you fucking kidding me? That is why I started this, to help those who don’t feel strong enough to speak out. The mind can be an overwhelming place if you’re the only one that knows what going on up there. This world shares so much of what we have to flaunt on the outsides we forget the most important part of us, share what’s on your mind. Go see a therapist, start a journal, confined in a friend, talk to me! No one gets through anything in this life alone, tell someone your wildest dreams, and then make them your reality!